How is Your Relationship with Money?
I just had a transformational session with my business coach and wow! I realized that I have an avoidant attachment style with money. In other words, I ignore, neglect, take for granted and avoid money. I think if money was a sexy man I was dating, he would get up and walk out. And can you blame him. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t pay attention to you and yet expects you to be there all of the time supporting you and giving you everything you have, without gratitude!!
So now what? I need to clean up my relationship with money. This means paying attention every day to what I spend and receive, being grateful and showing appreciation for everything going out and coming in and shifting my energy to be more loving and attentive to my money.
The first thing I did was write a letter to money and do the Ho’oponopono prayer (I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.) This is what I wrote:
Dear Money,
I am sorry I neglected you.
Please forgive me for letting you down, causing you harm, or hurting you in any way in this lifetime or any other lifetime.
Thank you for always being with me, for supporting me, and giving me everything I have.
I love you. I love everything you have ever done for me.
I am committed to repairing this relationship.
Please show me the way.
I love all those parts of me that have difficulty with valuing me and valuing money. I forgive all my past beliefs and stories that no longer serve me. I now value myself and money!
How is your relationship with money? Which attachment style do you have?
Avoidant Attachment: Do you avoid it? Ignore your bank statements? Not sure how much money is going in and out? Are you aloof?
Anxious attachment: Or are you needy? Do you constantly worry about money, checking your bank account daily? You talk about your lack of money all of the time. You are afraid of losing money. There’s a lack of trust in money.
Disorganized attachment (or anxious-avoidant): Do you fluctuate between the two? Unsure and don’t really trust your decisions or money.
Secure attachment: You love and respect your money. You are confident and trust your relationship with money. You pay attention to the flow in and out and are grateful and appreciative.
If you want to shift your relationship with money, here are some ways:
Take some physical money and talk to it. Ask it: How do you feel about our relationship? What do you need from me? How do you feel about me? What kind of relationship do you want with me? What can I do for you? What’s your attachment style?
Write a letter to money as if it was your lover. Maybe you need to ask for forgiveness, or show gratitude and appreciation.
Do your forgiveness work. What beliefs or stories do you have about money? Now can you forgive yourself? Can you forgive all of those parts of you?
Start a 40-day abundance challenge with the Abundance Book by Jonathon Randolph Price.
Shift the energy. Every time you spend money, be grateful for it. Every time you receive money, jump for joy. Talk to it and show it gratitude and appreciate it, and really feel those feelings!!
We have to be conscious of all aspects of our lives. I have been neglectful, and I want to do better!! Thank you money! I am so grateful and appreciative.